26 months since application, 12 months and 1 day since receiving her referral, and it finally happened. We were united with our daughter! In many ways, things have been far better than we could have ever imagined. Meeting our daughter's caretakers was incredibly encouraging. We braced for a large orphanage where everyone was too stretched, … Continue reading I Wasn’t Prepared for This: Anger After Adoption
It's been just over 2 years. The call is coming any day. FINALLY. My ringer is set as loud as possible, but I still impulsively check my phone every five minutes. I can't miss this call. Somehow I've missed all the other ones... the one telling us they'd found a placement, the one telling us … Continue reading The Call That’s Going to Change Everything
7 months ago we saw a picture of our daughter for the first time. Since that day, there have been periods when the wait has seemed tortuous, and there have been periods of relative relief. December was the hardest month yet. We were expecting to receive an update (including a picture), and never got one. … Continue reading Always Wondering, Sometimes Worrying, About our Daughter
This is not normal. This community I'm surrounded by is not normal. And I mean this in the very best way. Today I feel acutely aware of it in regards to our adoption. I am completely overwhelmed by the amount of care and support we've received throughout our entire adoption process, and don't want to … Continue reading My Community is Not Normal (in the best way).
Looking at my life as a whole, I've had very little experience when it comes to waiting. I don't know the pain of unmet desires for a spouse. I don't know the pain of infertility. I don't know the pain of waiting for a deployed parent to come home or the pain of waiting for … Continue reading The Pain and Purpose of Waiting